Upper-Intermediate - Going for Younger Guys (D2219)

A: 你看王蕾的微信了吗?
nǐ kàn Wáng Lěi de wēixìn le ma?
Did you read Wang Lei's Wechat message?
B: 看了,跟她合照的那个帅哥是她BF吗?
kàn le, gēn tā hézhào de nàge shuàigē shì tā BF ma?
I read it. Is that handsome guy in the picture with her her boyfriend?
C: 是的,我上次在外面吃饭还碰到王蕾和她男朋友了。
shì de, wǒ shàngcì zài wàimian chīfàn hái pèngdào Wáng Lěi hé tā nán péngyou le.
Yeah. Last time I went out to eat I ran into Wang Lei and her boyfriend.
A: 不错吧!听说是姐弟恋呢!
bùcuò ba! tīngshuō shì jiědìliàn ne!
Not bad. I've heard that she's with a younger guy.
B: 现在姐弟恋好流行啊!相差几岁?
xiànzài jiědìliàn hǎo liúxíng a! xiāngchà jǐ suì?
These ”older woman“ relationships are really popular nowadays. What's their difference in age?
A: 好像有五六岁。
hǎoxiàng yǒu wǔliù suì.
About five or six years.
B: 五六岁?那会不会一看就是姐弟恋?
wǔliù suì? nà huìbùhuì yī kàn jiùshì jiědìliàn?
Five or six years? So is it an obvious “older woman” relationship?
C: 我觉得还好。王蕾保养得很好,看起来只有三十出头,不像快奔四的人。
wǒ juéde hái hǎo. Wáng Lěi bǎoyǎng de hěn hǎo, kàn qǐlái zhǐyǒu sānshí chūtóu, bùxiàng kuài bēnsì de rén.
I think it's not that obvious. Wang Lei takes good care of herself. She looks like she's only just turned 30. Not like she's someone pushing 40.
A: 真爱跟年龄无关。
zhēn ài gēn niánlíng wúguān.
True love has nothing to do with age.
B: 陈鹏你说呢?男人喜欢比自己大的女人吗?
Chén Péng nǐ shuō ne? nánrén xǐhuan bǐ zìjǐ dà de nǚrén ma?
Chen Peng, what do you think? Do guys like women older than themselves?
C: 这个……要看什么样的女人吧。
zhè ge…… yào kàn shénmeyàng de nǚrén ba.
This... it probably depends on the woman.
A: 就是。林志玲四五十岁了,还是男人心里的女神。
jiùshì. Lín Zhìlíng sìwǔshí suì le, háishì nánrén xīnli de nǚshén.
Yeah. Lin Zhiling is already 40 or 50 years old, and she's a dream girl for guys.
B: 我是说普通人。明星是特殊群体。陈鹏,你能接受姐弟恋吗?
wǒ shì shuō pǔtōngrén. míngxīng shì tèshū qúntǐ. Chén Péng, nǐ néng jiēshòu jiědìliàn ma?
I'm talking about average people. Celebrities are a special group. Chen Peng, could you be in an “older woman” relationship?
C: 说实话,我还是喜欢比我小的姑娘。如果真碰到喜欢的了,女孩子比我大两三岁我还是可以接受的。
shuō shíhuà, wǒ háishì xǐhuan bǐ wǒ xiǎo de gūniang. rúguǒ zhēn pèngdào xǐhuan de le, nǚháizi bǐ wǒ dà liǎng sān suì wǒ háishì kěyǐ jiēshòu de.
To tell the truth, I still like girls who are younger than me. If I really met one that I liked, a girl who was two or three years older than me, then I could deal with it.
A: 嗯,差两三岁就算同龄人。要是有比我小两三岁的男人追我,我也会考虑的。
ng4, chà liǎng sān suì jiùsuàn tónglíngrén. yàoshì yǒu bǐ wǒ xiǎo liǎng sān suì de nánrén zhuī wǒ, wǒ yě huì kǎolǜ de.
Yeah. A difference of two or three years is pretty much the same age. If a man two or three years younger than me pursued me, I'd also consider it.
B: 那比你小五到八岁的呢?
nà bǐ nǐ xiǎo wǔ dào bā suì de ne?
Then what about five to eight years younger than you?
A: 小这么多?我可不想陪小男生成长,培养半天,最后不知道成了谁的老公。
xiǎo zhème duō? wǒ kě bù xiǎng péi xiǎonánshēng chéngzhǎng, péiyǎng bàntiān, zuìhòu bù zhīdào chéng le shéi de lǎogōng.
That young? I don't want to accompany some little boy as he grows up and take care of him all the time, not knowing whose husband he'll be in the end.
B: 哈哈,就是。王蕾也算钻石单身女郎,不知道这次的年轻帅哥是不是她的菜。会不会是小白脸看上了她的钱和地位,利用她往上爬的?
hāhā, jiùshì. Wáng Lěi yě suàn zuànshídānshēnnǚláng, bù zhīdào zhècì de niánqīng shuàigē shìbushì tā de cài. huìbuhuì shì xiǎobáiliǎn kànshang le tā de qián hé dìwèi, lìyòng tā wǎngshàng pá de?
Haha, exactly. Wang Lei is a single, wealthy woman, I wonder if this young handsome guy is really for her. Could it be that this good looking guy is eyeing her money and position and using her as a stepping stone?
C: 哎,你不接受姐弟恋就算了!别把别人想得那么卑鄙!
āi, nǐ bù jiēshòu jiědìliàn jiù suànle! bié bǎ biérén xiǎng de nàme bēibǐ!
Hey, if you can't deal with “older woman” relationships then forget it! Don't think of other people with such disdain.

Key Vocabulary

微信 wēixìn Wechat, a popular Chinese text messaging service; a Wechat message
合照 hézhào group photo
姐弟恋 jiědìliàn a relationship where the woman is older than the man
流行 liúxíng popular
相差 xiāngchà difference
保养 bǎoyǎng to take care of
出头 chūtóu to have just entered
奔四 bēnsì to run towards 40 years old, pushing 40
真爱 zhēn ài real love
无关 wúguān unrelated
女神 nǚshén dream girl, goddess
特殊 tèshū special
群体 qúntǐ group
接受 jiēshòu to accept
说实话 shuō shíhuà to tell the truth
chà lack, difference
同龄人 tónglíngrén someone who's the same age
考虑 kǎolǜ to consider
培养 péiyǎng to train, cultivate, educate
钻石单身女郎 zuànshí dānshēnnǚláng a rich, single woman
是不是……的菜 shìbúshì......decài to be or not to be one's style
往上爬 wǎngshàngpá to climb upwards, get ahead
卑鄙 bēibǐ despicable

Supplementary Vocabulary

合影 héyǐng group photo
代沟 dàigōu generation gap
奔三 bēnsān almost 30, pushing 30
钻石王老五 zuànshí wánglǎowǔ rich, middle-aged single man
吃软饭 chīruǎnfàn a man relying on money from a woman he's romantically involved with

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