Intermediate - Ways to Break Up (C2329)

A: 你们说怎么分手不会伤害对方呢?
nǐmen shuō zěnme fēnshǒu bùhuì shānghài duìfāng ne?
How would you all break up with somebody without hurting them?
B: 分手都会伤害对方。
fēnshǒu dōu huì shānghài duìfāng.
Breaking up always hurts the other person.
A: 可是我真的觉得我跟王鹏不合适。
kěshì wǒ zhēnde juéde wǒ gēn Wáng Péng bù héshì.
But I really think that Wang Peng and I aren't good for each other.
C: 很简单,什么都不要说,一个月不联系,不接电话,不回短信。
hěn jiǎndān, shénme dōu bù yào shuō, yī gè yuè bù liánxì, bù jiē diànhuà, bù huí duǎnxìn.
It's easy. You don't need to say anything. Don't communicate for a month. Don't answer the phone. Don't return texts.
B: 那是你们男人的方式。
nà shì nǐmen nánrén de fāngshì.
That's the way you guys do it.
A: 就是,至少要跟对方说清楚吧。
jiùshì, zhìshǎo yào gēn duìfāng shuō qīngchu ba.
Exactly. At least explain it to the other person.
B: 如果说不出口,那就写邮件或者发短信吧。
rúguǒ shuōbuchūkǒu, nà jiù xiě yóujiàn huòzhě fā duǎnxìn ba.
If you can't say it, then just write a letter or a text message.
A: 我试过,他以为我不开心,随便说说的。
wǒ shì guo, tā yǐwéi wǒ bù kāixīn, suíbiàn shuō shuo de.
I tried. He thinks I'm unhappy and just saying whatever comes to mind.
B: 那删掉他所有的联系方式。手机号码和QQ都拉黑。
nà shāndiào tā suǒyǒu de liánxì fāngshì. shǒujī hàomǎ hé QQ dōu lāhēi.
Then delete all of his contact information. Put his phone number and his QQ on a black list.
A: 可我怕他去我家或者来公司找我。
kě wǒ pà tā qù wǒjiā huòzhě lái gōngsī zhǎo wǒ.
But I'm afraid he'll go to my house or come to my work to look for me.
C: 我还有一个办法。
wǒ hái yǒu yī gè bànfǎ.
I have another way.
A: 什么?快说!
shénme? kuài shuō!
What? Tell me!
C: 找他借钱啊!今天借五千,明天借一万,但是不跟他约会。
zhǎo tā jièqián a! jīntiān jiè wǔ qiān, míngtiān jiè yī wàn, dànshì bù gēn tā yuēhuì.
Ask him to lend you some money! Borrow 5,000 today and 10,000 tomorrow, but don't show up on dates with him.
B: 张博你好狠啊!
Zhāng Bó nǐ hǎo hěn a!
Zhang Bo, you're so cruel!

Key Vocabulary

分手 fēnshǒu to break up
伤害 shānghài to harm
对方 duìfāng counterpart
合适 héshì to be fitting
什么都不 shénme dōu bù not at all
联系 liánxì to contact
接电话 jiē diànhuà to pick up the phone
回短信 huí duǎnxìn to return a text message
方式 fāngshì method
至少 zhìshǎo at least
说清楚 shuō qīngchu to make clear
如果 rúguǒ if
说不出口 shuōbuchūkǒu to be difficult to say
邮件 yóujiàn email
或者 huòzhě or
发短信 fā duǎnxìn to send a text message
以为 yǐwéi to think mistakenly
随便 suíbiàn as one wishes
删掉 shāndiào to delete
所有的 suǒyǒu de all
拉黑 lāhēi to put someone on a black list
jiè to lend
约会 yuēhuì date
hěn cruel

Supplementary Vocabulary

残忍 cánrěn cruel, ruthless
生活方式 shēnghuó fāngshì lifestyle
尴尬 gāngà embarrassed
幸福 xìngfú happiness
黑名单 hēimíngdān black list

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